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 “What you eat you will eventually crave.”
(Susan Smith Jones) We create our own cravings?! What I take in today becomes what I will lean into and long for tomorrow. The small and simple daily choices begin to matter more and more as I reflect on this truth. What are you eating physically? What are you taking in emotionally, visually, mentally, spiritually? What about in personal relationships, work environment and social settings? Is what you are taking in what you want to crave? Check out the areas on your life map and rediscover what you are taking in. See something you don’t want to gravitate to? Redirect your energy and implement new patterns. Small choices lead to great change. What do you want more of? Start feeding yourself with it now! Create what you want to crave. Reach out for support and realign, it is never too late to begin something new. Here’s to realigning with our values, dreams, desires, thrilling presence and all things Love! In the flow, Darcy Have you ever caught yourself streaming the mean and nasty channel in your head?
If your answer was "No," I invite you to take another look and answer again I’ll wait. What if the solution to any present challenges in your life lies in being kinder to yourself and more compassionate? Here’s a thought: Choose compassion, ditch criticism, live the life you desire. Is this a radical idea or a profound truth? I don’t know about you, but following the inner bully’s lead doesn’t get me where I want to go. On the contrary, I usually end up frustrated, discouraged and confused when I keep the mean and nasty channel playing unchecked in my head (aka: Bully Radio). Believing the pushing, pulling, thrashing, judging, nagging, manipulating, or criticizing thoughts steal opportunities for joy and keep the life I desire out of reach. Believing the accepting, praising, celebrating, exploring, cheerleading, embracing, dreaming, or nurturing thoughts motivate me to continue loving myself and showing up to life’s adventures. When I am motivated in love, I thrive and produce desirable results. When I am bullied by fear, I nose dive into self sabotage and dead ends. What might become possible if you turn on the compassion and turn off the criticism? Tuning into Love, Darcy  I learn so much from spending time with my goddess nieces. I see with new eyes every time I am around them. I learn so much about how to live fully from and with them.
Soon to be five years old, my niece Isis is the epitome of vibrant aliveness. She takes her tasks very seriously, determined to try new things and take the lead. With the end of summer heat gracing us this week in Northern California, watering is primary on Isis’ to dos. Hose in hand, I watched as she took pride in quenching the thirst of parched plants all by herself. Before long, mud started pouring from the strawberry-clad garden patch. First just a little mud was something that intrigued and delighted her. She was seeing the results of her actions and her power! Then the mud stream continued, growing in speed and depth. She was not so delighted with this turn of events. What was fun and precise, watering the plants and seeing the stream come down the driveway, had gotten uncomfortable and out of control, aka: muddy and messy. Shrieking and crying, she now wanted this to end. “Make it stop!” she pleaded with chaotic fervor. Over her bellowing, the so real in the moment dramatic reacting, I said once, twice, three times “just let go!” From my perspective, I could see that she still had control. Letting go was the key to stopping the stress. When she was ready and able to hear me and try something different, she did. Releasing her grip, the hose drops. Then the mud slide halts. Next, her expression changes as the revelation sinks in. All she had to do was let go. She had the key the entire time. When it was time to let go, she knew; the mud told her. Recalling how and when to relinquish control came with gentle alliance, this time from auntie DiDi’s shout over the screeching. Just dropping it, literally letting go of control, brought desirable results. Chaos stopped, equilibrium returned, clarity came. Lesson: Hold on until it is time to let go. The hose will be there tomorrow and she knows where to find it, how to pick it up, turn it on, use it, let go, turn it off, move on. Simple, right? Yes and in the moment, when elements are in full force and emotions raised, seeing the solution can be difficult. Where in your life, inside or out, are you holding on tight? Where are emotions in high gear, tensions raised, control gripped close? How do you know when the time is right to let go? (Thoughts, feelings, sensations, urges, intuitive guidance) Letting go leaves room for solution to enter in; and if you want to grab on again, the chance will be there in one form or another. When the time is right, the signs are pointing to try something different, to let go and let life take over for now, why not try it out? Holding on when the signs are saying to let go can increase mess and stress. What if the solution to whatever is tense in you and your life right now is the let go just a little? Here’s to releasing the grip and letting solution slide in! In the Flow, Darcy This article is featured in Simply...Woman! Online Magazine http://www.simplywoman.com/words-of-wisdom-just-drop-it-with-darcy-lubow/ "Faith consists in believing when it is beyond the power of reason to believe." (Voltaire) One of the primary principles of recovery is faith. Finding a reason to believe when life is a struggle can be, well, a struggle. Integrating faith into daily living can create a newfound abundance, flow and ease where struggle and strife once existed. Faith becomes clear when eyes are open to see the blessings, when gratitude enters and what is going right rather than only what is going wrong is acknowledged. Living in recovery means recovering who we really are. Recovery provides the opportunity to get connected to what guides us, the life force that is taking care of the details, bringing everything together in its own perfect way. Showing up with curiosity and a feeding the willingness to believe in what cannot be seen builds faith. What results is freedom, space to embrace the moment, and the joy that comes from a faith led life. Faith is what brings me back to the path I am destined for, the one that is lit with connection and synchronicity and safety. Faith is the strong foundation underfoot always holding me safely. Having faith in life and in the beauty that comes from all perceived darkness is a choice I get to make whenever I choose. There are times when no reason to believe can be mustered by my mind. This is where faith comes in, asking me to believe, to stay the course of my inner compass. Coming to know how this state of being shows up in us is an adventure, full of learning and growing and discovering. What does faith mean to you? If you were to describe faith and how it shows up in your life, both inner and outer, what words would you use? Who taught you about faith, either why to have it or why it’s no different than believing in the Tooth Fairy? If faith spoke, what would (s)he say? We all believe in something. Getting to know what and where our beliefs lie is the privilege of the conscious person. If you wonder where and how faith reside in your world, take a look at its opposing energy. Yes, I am talking about fear. That dreaded phantom force, the one some of us spend more time with than others; the goblin who shows up in countless forms, inner mean girls, pipsqueaks with Napoleon complexes, and bullies galore. In every moment, each of us has a choice. Will we acknowledge fear, or give faith a chance? Whoever grows bigger is the one that gets fed more. Find your faith. Then feed it. Grab that journal you love, go back to the questions offered above, and get to know your definition of faith. Give it some attention, feed it, then watch it grow! In the Flow, Darcy |
Darcy Helene
As an advocate of Reinvention + Recovery, I work with clients to achieve balance, alignment and purpose in all areas 
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