So, I'm going to be a bit bold here. Are you ready?
The culture we are living in, at least the majority of it, says play now and pay later. To wait seems to be avoided at all costs. The juvenile reaction to delaying rewards, the concept of working for something and earning it, is everywhere. Enjoying the benefits of what hasn't been earned is to enable limited living. Ultimately, the trend of giving in to desires in the moment, feeding the ego instead of the soul, the plague of instant gratification, is sapping the soulfulness of society. This might sound a bit extreme. Maybe it is.
When I look around I see the chase to get more, have more, feel better. I also see and meet many people who are living below their potential, succumbing to mediocrity, unhappy. If you're seeing what I am, you'll agree that clearly, this is not setting us up for a satisfying future as a whole.
What is the alternative to the drive for more without the backing to pay for it mob mentality?
Become a person of character who earns what they have, develop patience and drive, delay instant gratification and grow in integrity, live abundantly from the inside out, master emotional maturity and gain lifelong prosperity.
You might be asking How does this happen, how do I get here?
My quick fire answers: One choice at a time. Get real. Mentorship. Focus.
Choices happen in the moment to moment. Making changes and new choices add up to new ways of living.
Becoming aware of what your values and priorities are today might be a jarring wake up call.
Honesty is not always enjoyable, yet it is worth it. What does your day to day look like? Are you spending more time on Instagram that reading? Netflix or face time with real people?
Honesty is required for success. Success is not convenient. Therefore, getting real probably won't be either. If you want success and significance, then leaning into what challenges you is going to be necessary. The outcome you desire lives on the other side of challenging your comfort zone, beyond instant gratification, outside of the routines that keep you in mediocre habits.
Having a mentor or guide to pave the path with you is paramount. Look at anybody you admire and I'll bet they had someone showing them some basics to follow. Knowing how to do, achieve or embody something you haven't learned the how to's for yet is irrational. Mentorship has been key for me in moving dreams into reality. Do you have a mentor or guide? Who do you seek guidance or feedback from? One way to begin to hone in on what you want, make a list of 5 - 10 people you admire, find someone who has what you want to show you the way to get there. This might be through books initially, then a coaching program online or community group.
Focus on where you want to go, what you want to feel, who you desire to be. Having a big WHY, a clear vision, is required to pull through resistance that will inevitably surface when habits and comforts are challenged. Take another read about visioning here for some extra oomph.
Darcy Helene Meehan
As an advocate of Reinvention + Recovery, I work with clients to achieve balance, alignment and purpose in all areas