Dreaming can be seen as indulgent, unimportant, even counterintuitive. Not only have I been judged by others for having a curious mind and vibrant imagination at times, I have also judged myself. Harshly. In a world that praises logical, linear, productivity above most else, dreaming and giving valuable time toward the "unreasonable, unrealistic, creative fodder" is a target for labels like avoidant, silly or even stupid. Surely, this is not how all people view (day)dreaming and creative play, though it seems to be commonplace. As I have noticed the judgments around creativity, I have been asking new questions. These have sparked new discoveries, revealing the reason behind my own daydreaming nature and how it can serve everyone to dream a little bit more.
Why do I dream?
Why does it matter?
Why should you dream, too?
Wired for anxiety, or at least living with it for much of my life, dreaming and accessing the nonlinear, creative side of my self has saved me from sometimes debilitating worry. Without this outlet, the ability to redirect energy from anxiety into curiosity, I have plummeted into depression and ill health. Through creativity I have accessed my wholeness. This has been a journey, both of courage and experimentation. I denied the dreamer in me through my loyalty to producing, having something to show for myself... all to no avail because the To Dos are never ending. Dreaming must be prioritized to be profited from.
Dreaming is not living in a fantasy world where the daily tasks are ignored, nor is it denying the hurts or difficulties of our current world. Dreaming is a doorway into a grander perspective, a language beyond words, a world of possibilities that aren't yet tangible. Dreaming connects us to our spirit, bringing us from the world of mental into that beyond thinking. When we dream we tap into what is possible and a path is paved to bring us there.
Have you ever made a bold wish only to find "coincidences" or synchronciities all around you that made the desire, the one that seemed outlandish, come to pass? This is the reality of dreaming. Until we dream it, it cannot be. Everything in this world is the result of somebody's courageous dream.
Think about it, every invention and creation and staple of society was once a thought someone called unrealistic.
Dreaming is a creative act. This can come in many forms, whether writing, drawing, wandering through a book store, collaging, cooking or gardening. This act of creativity includes seeing from multiple perspectives instead of just one, considering another's perception and seeing how it might apply to your own experience.
Dreaming + Creating = Visioning.
Without dreams, without curiosity, without creative questions, change cannot be accessed consciously. Dreams bring us to new heights, guide us in overcoming our hurdles with a sense of purpose and meaning.
I dream to escape the habits that I spent many years forming, those of worry and fear driven thinking and action. I dream because it connects me to something greater than myself, to spirit and life that cannot be predicted. I dream because I know there is something beyond what my eyes can reach that will be powerful and pioneering. I dream because I want to grow, because I am driven to become greater, to increase my capacity and make an impact on the world around me. I dream because it's fun, because it rattles me out of my ruts and into my essence. I dream because defying the odds is more worthwhile than succumbing to fear and being mediocre. I dream because I'm human and want to know what superhuman feels like, even if just for brief moments. I dream because there's magic in mystery, in tapping into the pool of unknown, grand, mystical, awe inspiring ideas that my mind can't wrap itself around. I dream because it challenges me, inspires me, pulls me forward.
Why do you dream?
Whether you are running from a nightmare or running toward a dream, expand your edges. Allow the creative to sweep you up, to guide you, to comfort you, to smooth your edges, to soften your fears, to lift you into a new perspective, to delight you and irk you and anything else it will do with you.
DREAM. Dream yourself into the vision you have for your life, for the world, for what's possible, for what could be, for what could no longer bind you...
What do you dream of?
If you don't know how to dream, click here to be in touch with me for a few ideas on how to stir the creative in you. It can be simple. It can be scary. It can be sweet. What I know for sure is that you are designed to dream & if you can dream it it can be.
"You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one..."
With Huge Heart,
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Why do I resist letting go? It paves the way for so much. As I face the uncertainty in letting go, dare to reinvent myself through conscious change, I continue to redefine and finesse my understanding of the process. Letting go... (enter theatrical noise: dooo dooo dooooo). The bad rap letting go has been given, both by me and others, is only one side of the story. Certain things are such a relief to release, right? To literally let go of a heavy bag you've been carrying for minutes or hours, to surrender a worry or fear to a higher power or delegate a task you're not suited for or interested in to others. These are the upsides of release. As I engage even more change, moving to a new city and starting another chapter, I am inciting transitions and stepping into uncharted territory on many levels. On the eve of this move, I am reflecting on letting go, both to comfort myself in moments of nervousness and also to bolster the confidence in releasing. Releasing the ideas of how life has to be, who I have been, what safety means and how I can show up now, how I can change. My faith muscles are growing as I have an honest look at my relationship with letting go. This conversation with letting go in itself challenges me to release the grips of control and live into a new story of release/letting go/surrender. Ultimately this is what I want, to be free to honestly live my life from the inside out. It isn't very comfortable. In fact, it's quite uncomfortable The type of discomfort I've come to recognize as a sign I am right where I'm supposed to be.
Letting go of what I have been invites in what I am meant to be. From my heart to yours, I invite you to let go of something. I am benefiting from it, amidst the discomfort, and I want this same freedom for you. Exhale and send something that has been nagging at you out with that audible breath; imagine it moving out and evaporating in front of you. If you are willing to let go, the great forces that turn our planet will certainly take it for you. Hey, your exhale helps trees grow, so give it up! It's actually a great act of service. Let go. Ask someone to help with your to do list or hire someone on fiver or hire my mom to take care of something small for you. Say a little prayer and request that a fear or difficult feeling be transformed into something useful. Give it up, whatever it is. Really let go. At some point the recognition that you released what felt impossible to unhook from was indeed surrendered. This, my friend, is the essence of freedom. So here it is, my most recent proclamation, my reflection, my commitment on letting go. May it illuminate your own journey in a way that comforts, challenges, enlivens and reminds you that you are absolutely not alone (even when you're alone). Change requires the courage to let go and then, yes, let in something new.
I am letting go of fear. I am letting go of doubt. I am letting go of worry. I am letting go of limited thinking. I am letting go of the compulsive "need" to know how things will work out in my favor or yours. I am letting go of the "what ifs" and "why did this/that/the other have to happen?" I am letting go of attachment to feelings and let them move through me instead, informing my journey with wisdom rather than pain or suffering. I am letting go of impatience. I am letting go of dread or doom and gloom outlook. I am letting go of thinking I know when there's no way I could because LIFE'S GOT THIS ALL COVERED in ways I could never imagine! I am letting go of the belief that because change happens I am unloved. I am letting go of the idea that letting go requires loss and sadness. I am letting go of the belief that loss is possible, instead adopting the truth that loss is impossible. I am letting go of the judgment about my body being less than tight and toned in some areas. I am letting go of comparison. I am letting go of the nostalgia that breeds depression. I am letting go of the thoughts that birth or feed resistance. I am letting go of anything that keeps me from tapping into the truth of who I am, who you are, what Life is: abundance, joy, eternal love, unwavering adoration, celebration, honor, beauty, playfulness, allowance, acceptance, BLISS.
I let go. This provides space for me to allow in the ABUNDANCE OF FREEDOM * I am ready to receive as I reinvent with the Divine. Bless all of you. Let's claim the truth and perpetuate only love, feeling honestly and living fully. I let go to let in what is meant for me, meant to be channeled through me, meant to exist in a way that I am needed to express. There is a song that only can be sung through me, my actions and evolving journey. Letting go allows me to tune into this song. I might miss melodies from former tunes, yet they are embedded in this new song, adding to its richness and delight. How beautiful this life is, I allow it all to be and see the blessings through any difficulty or confusion. It's all a miracle, whether I understand why or not right now. Radiating Love from all distances, I cherish you.
What did this stir in you? Are you ready to release something, or give it a go at least? It might not happen all at once, the process could be slow and steady and deliciously rewarding. You won't know if you don't choose to do it. Hey, you can always take back what you released. What have you got to lose really? Set intention, take that breath, release "it" and let go of what just might be holding you back from that satisfying freedom you so desire. Loosen that grip and let the miraculous real magic of trust wash over you. I'm here for you. I'm here with you. Let's do this.
Let me know in the comments below what you're releasing & how it shifts your relationship to you, others and the vast, beautiful world we live in.
Darcy Helene Meehan
As an advocate of Reinvention + Recovery, I work with clients to achieve balance, alignment and purpose in all areas