Take the Price Tag Off Your Peace

They don't answer your phone call. Text messages go unanswered. You hit stand still traffic on your way to an important meeting. The person in front of you at the store gives you a funny look that you swear is a quiet, condescending judgment. Does your mind have a fear-fueled field day or do you keep your equilibrium?

If we are honest, many of us will admit that things like this turn us into anything but peaceful. We assume we are being rejected, neglected, judged or something else we really don't want to be true. These beliefs, the automatic reaction that things are going wrong or what we fear is about to crash into us, are one of the ways we give others the power over us. Peace is priceless, yet how many give it away with thought patterns and belief systems?

Are you selling your peace to the lowest bidder or giving it away for free?
It's time to take your most precious asset off the market! Are you ready to reclaim your power of perspective? 

The next time you notice yourself in a spiral of fear, assuming the worst or taking something personally, pause and ask "is my peace worth more than I'm selling it for?" Maybe your thoughts are right. Maybe they're not. You can either choose to suffer now and hurt later or prepare yourself for a peaceful passage into what's on it's way. Why dress rehearse tragedy when you can anticipate greatness before it is even visible?They don't come home when planned. Your text messages are left unanswered. Stand still traffic strikes when you're running late for a meeting. The person in front of you gives you a look. Does your peace go out the window in a flash?

​Life happens and opportunities to sell our peace present themselves all day long. In every moment, there is an option to go into panic, feed fear or believe in disempowering predictions. This turns a simple experience into a melodrama, leaving us to suffer in the meantime. 

Every experience can be seen from multiple perspectives.
The view we choose determines whether we will feel peaceful or bat shit you know what. You might be accustomed to going into negativity zone, what some of my clients have heard me term "so called realistic pessimism." While the truth is they might be ignoring you, something unpredictable could have happened, you might be late for a meeting and the person in front of you at the store might think you look awful. Maybe. Then again, maybe not. Your friend's phone could be turned off or they fell asleep before returning your call, the traffic keeps you from getting in an accident and the person you pass is actually admiring you but they don't have a smile on their face so you can't tell. Which of these realities would you prefer to believe? 

Either way, you won't know all the facts. You can choose to keep your peace and even feed your positivity bank account regardless of the circumstances. I have had plenty of experience believing disempowering predictions. You've heard "what you think, you become" right? If thought life creates emotional experience, then how peaceful you feel is up to you for the most part.

I have spent much of my life selling my peace to others, much of the time without them even knowing it. Sean Stephenson speaks about the power of perspective in his TED Talk (watch it here). This man inspired me to take my peace off the market and fuel empowering predictions, even when thoughts tempted me down the tracks of "what if..." fear zone. Either the mind can be a prison that confines us or a launching pad that springs us into significant and successful living.

The truth is, what we fear might happen. We might get disappointed. Someone we love might get hurt or hurt me. We will be late for meetings and have disapproval from many. The truth is also that amazing things might happen. In order to keep the peace and feel happy, safe and receptive to the goodness of life, we have to believe empowering predictions. Some might say "you're unrealistic." Okay, maybe. Then again, maybe not. What if believing the best is happening actually makes the best happen? We can imagine the "worst case scenario" in a hot second. Beginning to believe in those empowering predictions, what we desire, the incredible miracles that could be around every corner, turns panic into peace. Which would you rather live with?

Why live in panic when there is so much to savor? Life is going to keep happening. Claiming your perspective and living with peace is completely within your control. Doesn't it feel more empowering, comfortable and worthwhile to think about how loved you are instead of focusing on the grump who stared you down in the store?

Learning to protect your peace and turn your mind in a positive direction takes time, consistency and coaching. Have you been selling your precious serenity for pennies or even giving it away to people who don't even want it? It's time to take your peace off the market and enjoy playing with "what's the best that could happen" game. 

Need some specific tips on how to take your peace off the market once and for all? Contact me now for a free strategy call.

You Go You,
Darcy Lubow
Reinvention & Recovery Coaching: Aligned Life & Sustained Success