We are all being called to face something, grow in one area or another (or a few all at once). As uncomfortable aggravating, frightening, or unfamiliar as your current state of mind or life might be, what is currently a challenge might also be the opportunity for your next breakthrough. If you knew how would you use what's challenging you to grow and thrive? Turning the challenger into an ally is not necessarily easy, yet is it very simple.
Here's my most current challenger: Impatience. I want to have answers now that I simply don't have. The reality is, it's not time to know or do certain things or I would have already. Attempting to force what isn't ready has been causing challenge and difficulty, provoking fear where faith would carry me through just fine. Getting more and more uncomfortable, I had a moment of recognition: I can use this impatience to my benefit whenever I choose. It's up to me. I was trying to force impatience out of my mind and being, which didn't work whatsoever. I didn't like impatience when the reality is I haven't taken the time to understand it's perspective. What I resist persists, the saying is as accurate as ever. Resistance is a sign that acceptance is needed. Tolerating, accepting and befriending what I am resisting in myself leads to breakthroughs. So, I leaned in, as uncomfortable as it can be, to get to know this thing, this feeling, this perception, I had been telling to kick rocks. Becoming willing to sit with impatience revealed something else entirely. I am befriending patience and reaping great benefit.
This is not to say I am turning the hands of time and getting answers as immediately as I want them. It turns out that isn't the point, freedom is. I am sitting with impatience (and the fear that lives underneath it), growing and learning how to be okay with uncertainty and even enjoy the exhilaration of it. What I have done is turn the challenger of impatience into an ally of patience, trust, perseverance. Do you want to feel more peaceful with what is? I don't know who doesn't want more allies in their corner, I sure do.
Engaging a process I have honed over time, one I lead clients in regularly, I retrieved the gifts hidden in my current experience. Impatience transformed into fortitude and faith with just a few minutes of attention and inquiry. The difference in energy is stuff of breakthroughs! Give yourself the gift of a shift in perspective & transform that challenge into a launching pad. Below is part of the process I use and guide clients through to shift from victim mode and stuckness into brilliant choice maker in the flow. Give them a try and see your inner tribe of confidantes grow.
Use these tips and techniques to turn any inner conflict into collaboration, difficulty into acceptance, challenger into ally. For extra support and to go deeper in this transformative process, be in touch with me now!
Nothing is stopping you even if it feels like you're not quite on track. Turn difficulties into stepping stones through that powerful perspective of yours! Befriend your challengers and watch them become allies.
You've got this,
Darcy Helene Meehan
As an advocate of Reinvention + Recovery, I work with clients to achieve balance, alignment and purpose in all areas