This is a concept many talk about and few actually follow through on. Consciously, that is. We are all committed to something. What I find is that unconscious commitments take us out, leaving the things we actually say we want to follow through on impossible. If we are committed to being right and our core belief says "I am unworthy of happiness, love, health, etc" then every attempt to be happy, loved, healthy, etc will be sabotaged.
This sucks, right?
There is a way around this unfortunate formula. Shedding light on what we are committed to, unconsciously and consciously, paves the way for strategic choices and courageous excavating of those creepy, crawly, booby trap core commitments.
A willingness to expose what's within us and has perhaps been driving our behavior makes radical change possible. Saying "I'm willing to be wrong about this belief" changes the game completely.
Asking "what do I fear?" will reveal what unconscious commitments we are keeping. Commitment can be scary. There is great risk involved. What's scarier is following unconscious agreements and investing in disempowering predictions for a lifetime. Facing fear and choosing to flip them on their side is a bold move, one that allows a dream life to be created and then lived.
What do you find yourself repeatedly doing, creating or reliving? Maybe it's being broke, feeling like the world is against you, believing you are unlovable or destined to screw up anything you cherish. Whatever it is for you, you probably don't want to say it out loud. When you've found that thing that you want to shove under the rug, you've hit the jackpot: this is an unconscious commitment.
You've got a choice now, either keep letting this run your life or bring it front and center and have a conversation with the little bugger. We all have hurdles, life lessons and points of pain. Every single person on this planet is operating from fear or ignorance in one form or another. This is just part of being human. When honesty is chosen and the decision to take back the driver seat of your mind (where it all starts) and life, the opportunity to quit some commitments consciously arrives.
What do you really, really want? If you had no fear, if there was an unwavering trust that you were safe in living something, with someone, in some way, what would that be? With a magic wand in hand, how would you create your dream life? These are the beginnings of what you could be committed to, once you free up the space of unconscious allegiances to those beliefs tying you down.
Commitment is a very noble, life affirming, worthwhile thing, when it is done with eyes wide open. Being present and staying the course with a dream, an agreement, a relationship, a vision is what brings meaning and a sense of purpose to life. Discovering what matters most, the underlying beliefs that have been standing in the way, and a how to guide for getting from unconscious to conscious requires a mentor, coach or companion (maybe one of each!). In my experience, it takes objective perspective, along with our own intuition, to make headway. Why navigate new terrain alone when there are others who have walked the dark road and know where the potholes are?
Maybe there's an unconscious, or shadow, belief that you are undeserving of receiving support or really and truly living a life where you feel loved, cherished, safe and on purpose. I am going to challenge you, right now, to quit that commitment and cut ties with the allegiance to that disempowering prediction. It is simply not true.
As a certified depth coach, trained therapist, shadow process advocate, and woman who has walked through land mines of my own mind with trusted guides, I know the life changing value of coming face to face with unconscious beliefs. When I got real about what I was committed to without knowing it, I discovered untapped resources and dreams waiting to be claimed. Are you committed to your fears and low level living, self sabotage and spinning in circles? Or do you dare to cut ties with what's keeping you from living your dream life and commit to what really matters?
For more on how to access your power and commit on purpose, be in touch with me now. You are anything but alone and support is here. Who knows what miraculous shift is on the other side of saying "I quit"? This could be the breakthrough you've been praying for.
Go ahead, quit that commitment and choose again. I believe in you.
With Huge Heart,
Darcy Helene Meehan
As an advocate of Reinvention + Recovery, I work with clients to achieve balance, alignment and purpose in all areas